2010年3月28日星期日

悲劇人生

聽過一個這樣的故事。

我跟她上司,是談得來的朋友。有一次,說起她,她的那位上司便把她的遭遇告訴我。她說她這位下屬做事就像牛一樣,只會默默地幹活,但別人對於她在背後付出了甚麼努力卻一無所知,於是,沒有人會欣賞她所做的一切,也沒有人讚美過她一句。

我嗯了一聲,這點我看得出來。我跟她下屬交手也有好些年了,表面上她是個大大咧咧的女人,像個大山婆,的確沒有人想到她聰明敏緻心細如塵。她的上司說,別看她粗粗魯魯,其實她對丈夫孩子十分好,出埠購物,一定是買衣服鞋子送老公;年中年尾發獎金,一定是為家裡添新的吃好的,自己卻從不買新衣化妝品。

我說,那麼她夫婿一定很帥了,我猜。對方點點頭,就是了。我就說怪不得,她那麼重視他,他該很感激才是。但原來,不是這樣的。

她上司續說,可惜她老公不爭氣,上班有一天沒一天,家裡甚麼都不管,只會拿錢,而且整天在外面胡天胡地,不事生產也算了,她連家公家婆也得照顧。

我沉默了一會兒,可想而知,又是一場可預料的悲劇。我反覆地問了好幾次,那麼她有沒有想過要分開呢?她上司再告訴我一件事,就在她懷孕時,她接到一個女人的電話,是她老公的情人。她們兩個對罵了,而翌日她還是若無其事地上班工作,回家若無其事地洗衣燒飯,從來沒跟別人提過。這件事是她上司很久之後,才從外面聽回來的。

我沒有再說話了,她上司幽幽地嘆了口氣,問我,這樣不是很可憐嗎?對,但又可以怎樣呢?

我忽然想到,也許有一些人,是注定要經歷悲劇人生的。而那種過程,除了一半是命運,有一半,也是個人的因緣際遇。

9 則留言:

匿名 說...

我覺得這是‘她’的人生態度和選擇:‘她’選擇默不作聲和默默忍受,結果當然是悲劇啦。

Iris

揚眉女子 說...

旁觀者講就容易, 但係如果係發生係自己身上既, 要狠心下決定其實好難.

新鮮人 說...

真前世久咗佢咁喎!
唉~~~~

揚眉女子 說...

新鮮人,

係喎, 真係慘.

匿名 說...

Thanks for your sharing about her story. It's quite moving and sad.
Her husband must fulfil some of her very important needs in order that she can bear with his irresponsibility. It seems that she chooses to accept him as he is. Otherwise, she probably would have left him already. Regarding her relationships with her colleagues and dedication to her work, I can see she can get the sympathy and recognition of her boss, that's your friend. Because of this, I'm happy for her even though she may not be appreciated by her co-workers. Life is not always fair to everybody, isn't it? If we believe in karma, at least that may give us power and patience to accept and cope with the hardship and challenges in life. I wish her a lot of courage, kindness and wisdom to live happily.
BbBb

揚眉女子 說...

BbBb,

Ridiculously what she needs is a husband, so he fulfilled. On the other hand we can see love is such a blind thing.

匿名 說...

I totally agree with you. I am a big fan of women liberation. I truly hope women can have education/vocational training, finanical independence and liberal thinking. As a result, they can be emancipated from societal, systemic and cultural oppression. Also, they can be free from the exploitation brought by the social insitution of marriage/monogamy. I hope the woman you mentioned about in your article has the self-awareness, self-understanding and courage to choose what she really wants in her life and marital relationship.
BbBb

佛爺 說...

今天還會有女人願意啞忍?我覺得不可能!她在精神上或某方面還有著回饋,否則,她離開了她的老公了。

揚眉女子 說...

BbBb,

As long as she wakes up, she will get her true life.

佛爺,

係香港就可能少d, 不過佢係上海人, 思想又唔同既.