2010年3月26日星期五

女人是需要被疼愛的

從來都不認同女人是需要被疼愛的,這一句話,說得仿佛很天經地義理所當然。我反感又討厭,這不是一種歧視麼?

很多時候我都覺得,身為女人的,實在不應該如此標籤自己。為甚麼吃飯時男方埋單是老馮的?為甚麼買樓落女方名是應份的?如果真是這樣,男人去滾去偷食,基於男性的生理和心理結構,又有甚麼天理不容呢?

我不是逞強,但我堅持公平的相處方式。男人可以賺錢養家,女人也可以;男人可以成為一家之主,女人也可以;男人可以貪新忘舊,女人也可以;男人可以一腳踏兩船,女人一樣可以。不是嗎?很多的事實已經擺在眼前,男人跟女人,其實是一樣的。

7 則留言:

ee 說...

很多時,「男女是一樣」,不一樣的是每個個體呀!才令一切愛情關係,以至人際關係難搞。

當然,會選講「XX天生應該YY」的,都是想獲得某些利益而已。
不論男女都會講這種話。

Kima 說...

為甚麼吃飯時男方埋單是老馮的?為甚麼買樓落女方名是應份的?如果真是這樣,男人去滾去偷食,基於男性的生理和心理結構,又有甚麼天理不容呢?
---Spot on!!Truly well said!
有些朋友說男生要有風度,但是說到什麽風度就是在女生面前不要吸煙,上落讓路..etc。有時候我又覺得,紳士風度是不是沒了一些自我性情?人做我做,人紳士我紳士,唉,好冇personality咯。
呵呵

揚眉女子 說...

ee ,

對, 我的重點是"女人", 不是"需要被疼愛的". 如是者, 男女都應該需要被疼愛, 而不是只有女人.

Kima ,

係囉, 最討厭呢d. 唔覺得男人一定要有風度, 亦唔覺得女人一定要比人讓路.

匿名 說...

Thanks for your honest and frank statement in your blog. I love your liberal position on the equal power of female an male. Because of the women liberation and sexual revolution over the past few decades, some of the women can be emacipated from different kinds of societal, systemic and cultural oppresions. As long as women can have education, vocational training/financial independence and liberal thinking, they can be free from all sorts of oppression. I belive women can have mulitiple partner/sexual partners, have the choice to whether enter into social institution of marriage/monogamy, have the right to choose their own sexuality of lesbian and/or bisexual, enjoy qualiy sexual life and romance without thinking long-term martial relationship, choose not to have kids or raise kids without a husband (the number of this kind of families without husband has been increasing rapidly in US and Canda over the past two decades), keep the marriage but have extramarital affairs with the understanding of their spouses...etc. In a nutshell, they can choose whatever that can fit their life philosopy and pursuit of happiness. (Male, especially all those male who have money, high positions, and power have been doing these for a very long, long time since history begun in patriachal traditons and societies.) I truly hope the new era of woman liberation and sexual revolution will arrived in Hong Kong soon and accepted by majority of people of Hong Kong. Also, I truly hope both male and female have mutual respect to one another and celebrate the divisity of different values and world view.

瞎子 說...

吃飯男方埋單,買樓落女方名,那不叫「被疼愛」,那叫「被包養」。

佛爺 說...

只有一方被疼愛,無論是男或女,感情很快便會流逝。就算沒有分手,也只是留著一個形式而已!

揚眉女子 說...

匿名,

thanks for your understanding and support as well.

瞎子,

有D 女人會覺得被包養 = 被疼愛.

佛爺,

可惜唔係人人都識咁諗呢.